Red Flag Detector
A psychologically-grounded assessment of relationship warning signs. Based on attachment theory, Gottman's Four Horsemen research, and narcissistic abuse pattern recognition. How many red flags are you rationalizing?
Red Flag Detector
20 questions about your current or most recent relationship. Based on Gottman's Four Horsemen research and narcissistic abuse pattern recognition. Be honest.
~4 minutes · Think of a specific relationship
01 /How to Play
- Think about your current or most recent significant relationship.
- Answer 20 questions about specific behaviors and patterns.
- Be honest — the test is most accurate when you answer instinctively.
- Your Red Flag Score is calculated across four Gottman dimensions.
- Results show which warning patterns are most prominent.
02 /The Science
John Gottman's four decades of relationship research identified four communication patterns — contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling — that predict relationship failure with over 90% accuracy. These 'Four Horsemen' form the core of this assessment. Narcissistic relationship abuse patterns (love bombing, devaluation, intermittent reinforcement) are drawn from clinical psychology literature on coercive control. Research shows people in high-red-flag relationships underestimate warning signs by an average of 40% due to cognitive biases including sunk cost fallacy and trauma bonding.
03 /Pro Tips
- Answer based on patterns, not isolated incidents — everyone has bad days.
- If you find yourself making excuses while answering, notice that.
- The test measures your partner's behavior, not your feelings about them.
- High scores don't mandate action — they prompt reflection.
- Consider retaking the test about a past relationship for calibration.